As full-time international house sitters, meeting other house sitters while travelling the world is a definite highlight of our nomad lifestyle.
During these meetings, one topic of conversation that frequently comes up is how we all deal with family back home. The scenario almost always seems to involve ageing parents requiring increasing care. It's probably a result of demographics, as those able to travel like we do are of a certain age, meaning parents are often older.
The other issue is how to juggle significant family events such as weddings or birthdays when a travel schedule has been planned well in advance. Not to mention the feelings of guilt which can arise around such circumstances.
There are several things you can do to make sure your travel plans accommodate your family and their needs, as well as your own. Here are some of our experiences and tips for juggling family expectations and responsibilities while on the road.
Talk to family before setting out
Before setting off on our travels, Andrew asked his mother what she thought of our plans to experience a nomadic life. She gave her blessing and said, "You don't have to wait around for us. Go and enjoy your life!"
We return regularly and visit her, possibly more so than when we lived in Australia, and our travels have now become popular topics among both our parent's friends. Several of them follow us on Facebook. One couple has even taken up house sitting with our help and tips on how to get started.
Often what may seem an awkward discussion can result in a very unexpected answer. By having that "difficult" conversation we now know we can travel with our parent's full support. They, in turn, know and understand we are only a flight away if we need to return.
Be prepared for the inevitable
Aware that someday we may get that dreaded message about the death or serious illness of a family member, we devised a strategy early in our house sitting career.
Whoever's family member it was will return home with the other staying to honour our house and pet sitting responsibilities. During our interview/video chat with potential homeowners, we tell them this, reassuring them that we won't abandon their home and pets.
Having this plan in place means decisions don't need to be made in stressful times - it is merely a matter of enacting a previously well thought out plan.
Solo sitters can also have a plan and these are questions that can help:
- Do the owners have someone who can take over in case of an emergency?
- Have you got an emergency fund in case you need to return home unexpectedly?
- Does your family know you may not be able to return immediately if something happens?
- Is there a family member you can rely on to help with immediate support if you aren't able to get a flight back immediately.
Trust the universe
It might sound like a cliche, but the house sitting lifestyle has proven to us many times, that by allowing things to happen means all will be well.
One of our favourite quotes from "The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel" movie, and now a life adage is:
Everything will be alright in the end. And if it's not yet alright, it is not yet the end.
Eight months into our house sitting life, we returned to Sydney for a few months to catch up with friends and family. During this time, Christopher's father (Bill) fell ill, was diagnosed with dementia and subsequently had to be relocated into aged care. We were around and able to assist with this transition.
Then in 2018, we again had some time in Sydney. During this time, Christopher's father had a stroke and passed away a week before we were to depart for a house sitting job in Melbourne. The timing could not have been more fortuitous.
We had spent several precious months with Bill, were able to arrange his funeral, finish off our house sits in Sydney and fly to Melbourne as planned.
It's the only time Christopher has wished we had our own place, as we were juggling three house-sits during the time of organizing the funeral. But we managed and were thankful that it all worked out. And our sit in Melbourne coincided with the wedding of a university friend of Andrew's which was announced after we secured our sit there. Surely this is more than coincidence?
Recently, Andrews father needed doctor visits and hospital tests in Sydney, where we are currently house sitting. He lives in rural New South Wales, but how fortunate we were able to accommodate his parents (Bill and Marie) and juggle hospital visits.
Our homeowners were delighted we could share their home with them. It also saved other family members having to come to Sydney, find accommodation, transport etc. The universe will really work it out if you trust and let it do its job.
We probably have more regular contact with our family now that we are on the road. Using messenger apps and video chat, we keep up with what each other is doing. Photos can easily be shared and commented on. Andrew taught his Mum and Dad to use FaceTime, and we regularly send printed postcards using our own images via the Australia Postcards app.
We use Skype credit to allow for cheap phone calls to family, and our Skype number will enable them to contact us anywhere in the world.
Technology actually provides for more accessible and regular communication, and we certainly take advantage of this facility. This included live streaming Christopher's father's funeral to his niece in London who wasn't able to return to Australia
Plan around family events
Time with family and loved ones is precious, and when we do have the opportunity to catch up, we love getting together and sharing a meal. We recently hosted Christopher's brother and wife for a barbecue at our house sit, with the owner's permission and blessing, of course.
Later this year we will hopefully attend Andrew's nephew's wedding, which is taking place nearby a house sit we've secured in northern Victoria. Unfortunately, we weren't able to be at Andrew's Dad's 80th birthday, but provided a fun quiz about his dad for the party guests to complete.
One couple we know got inexpensive flights to return home to surprise a newly arrived grandchild (and her parents)!
Be open to opportunities and the options will present themselves.
Our lifestyle doesn't exclude our family
The international nomadic lifestyle doesn't have to be at the exclusion of family. Many sitters we've met tell similar stories to our own. Assignments are booked around family events, or on occasion we might even find ourselves serendipitously nearby when loved ones needed us.
It seems to be an innate calling to return home when needed (even if you don't know it at the time). House sitter grandparents communicate regularly with their grandchildren via Facetime, and some grand kids even get to travel to and enjoy their grandparents' house sits.
Anything is possible - it's just a matter of rethinking expectations and finding an alternative path. Accommodating your own family and their requirements is not really a juggle but another aspect of the wonderful lifestyle we know as house sitting.
BIO - Andrew & Christopher have been full time international house sitters since May 2016 when they packed up their Sydney apartment and headed to New Zealand. Known as the Global Wanderers, they love exploring the world as locals and making connections with homeowners and their adorable pets. You can read more about their travels at GlobalWanderers.com or follow them on Facebook & Instagram.