How To Meet A New Dog For The First Time

How to meet a new dog for the first time

Last updated on April 6th, 2019

As house sitters we’re often keen to demonstrate our love of animals as soon as we arrive at an assignment. We want to put the home owners at ease by showing an instant bond with the pets we’ll be caring for in their absence.

But, are we sometimes over zealous during this first dog meeting?

We asked Gregg Flowers, a Florida-based dog trainer about the best and most effective way to greet a dog for the first time in their own home.


Many people, especially children, get bitten every day and “the greeting” is possibly the most likely circumstance for an “iffy” dog to snap.

It’s important for us dog lovers and house sitters not to allow our zeal to make a new friend get us into trouble because we rushed the encounter. So, be patient and take it slowly.

A good rule of thumb when greeting an unfamiliar dog is – no talking, no touching and no eye contact.

Body language is everything

Never rush at a dog with a lot of chatter and frenetic energy upon greeting it. When you meet a dog for the first time, body language is everything – so is your calm energy.

When dealing with dogs, set aside your attachment to human language and customs. This is HIS language and if you want to make his acquaintance in a favorable way that appeals to him, these tips can really help.

meeting a new dog

Learn to communicate with dogs in a way they understand

Communicate in a way the dog understands

If the dog is with his owner, ask if it’s okay to say hello. Some dogs just don’t like people, and you might save yourself the unpleasantness of dodging teeth by employing the courtesy of simply asking first.

Either way, with or without an owner, when you first greet a dog, keep your breathing easy and relaxed.

Do NOT bend over him (standing over a dog is a dominant posture). Remember even a so-called “short” person is taller than a big dog. Allow him to come to you as you squat without talking to, looking at or touching him.

This body language says, “I’m not a threat”

Looking directly in the face of a dog may be wrongly interpreted as a warning. Remember, he doesn’t know you. One reason small children often get bitten by a dog, is because they are right on eye level with Rover.

Greeting a dog for the first time

Your smile might be interpreted as a growl by a dog

No smiling

Do not inadvertently show your teeth (as in a smile). A smile to us means ‘friend’, however, showing teeth in dog language says, ‘back off’. Smile after you consummate the greeting process. For a nervous dog your smile might be interpreted as a growl.

When you approach the dog, don’t do it head on, but rather turn to your side and squat before you get to him. Allow him to close the gap to come and sniff you.

Rescue dogs can be particularly nervous and may need for time to get to know you. Giving them space to do this in their time really helps. You could potentially be seen as a threat, so take it calm and take it easy.

How do I smell?

Extend the back of your wrist, and when the dog begins to smell you, do not say anything, don’t look at him and don’t pet him. We have plenty of “scent” on the back of our wrist, and an open hand may be misinterpreted by some dogs.

Let him get all the information he needs about you, through sniffing.

After that, you can slowly move your hand under his chin (NOT over his body. That way he can see where your hand is going.)

Don’t reach over a dog to pet him on the top of the head or on his back until you can tell that he enjoys being petted there. Next, pet him gently on the chest or on the side of the face.

When you do ultimately talk to the dog, speak in a monotone, friendly voice and a lower register. Do NOT speak in a high pitched, manic, voice.

Many adults today are afraid of dogs because no grown-up taught them as children the proper way to greet a dog. The result was a bad experience that has stayed with them into their adult life.

The above is all good information for meeting any dog and important counsel to pass on to our little ones. Let’s help make sure they don’t have an experience that perpetuates a fear of dogs in the future.

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If you show can show pet owners that you are calm, in control and respectful of their pets, you’ll quickly win their hearts and reassure them that they’ve picked the best pet sitters to look after their furry friends!

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Ronald W McKnight - Reply

Thanks this is very helpful as I Look to become a dog walker

    Vanessa Anderson - Reply

    Thanks for stopping by and glad it’s been helpful!

Bragi - Reply

In my last post the dogs were German shepherd dogs

Bragi - Reply

At one sit I was to look after 3 white German sceffer dogs. 2 of them came straight to me and were very friendly. The owners said that I should just ignore the last one,,he would come. At first he stayed away from me but when we walked outside he would pass very close but I just kept ignoring him.the next day anou 4 hours after the owners left I was sitting outside and all of a sudden the dog was there after that we were best friends an he like the other dogs spent a lot of time by my site. And when I sat for them again 2 years later it only took 2 hours to become his friend again. The owners said that was very unusual

    Vanessa Anderson - Reply

    Thanks for sharing your story Bragi. That just goes to show that ignoring a pet can sometimes work in our favor! We’ve had this situation a couple of times now while house sitting 🙂

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